WOMEN IN ISLAM WEARING THE KHIMAR/ HIJAB

In Islam women are suppose to wear the hijab and everything else is for the husband to see. I agree on that but i honestly feel that being wrapped up all the time is unrealistic to me. i feel that as long as a woman dresses modestly then it should be okay. i think that any one can wear the khimar/hijab at anytime and any point but doesnt have that spiritual vail on the inside. For that reason thats why i dont wear it unless i have to pray which is at home or at the mosque. I know regarless if i wear it or not i will have that spiritual vail at all times becasue it will never go away So is it a sin?

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Permalink Reply by Nash on June 25, 2009 at 3:45pm: sister if you can achieve modesty then your dress would also be modest, the best dress is the dress of modesty and righteousness and if your sould is dressed with that then your outer earthly body would also conform with the inner dressing. Modest souls dont attract ignorant sex craved maniacs nor does it want to cause another soul to slip up and sin, so the same soul that is likethat on the inside will most definitly not wish to cause another human being to slip up by getting a peak at some goodies as its body is walking down the street on the outside. That same modest soul will be very concious of how its material body looks on the outside and will do everything to prevent its jewels from being flaunted in the eyes of men. Now question to ask is what is considered beauty on a womans body, what is the things that is most attractive to men?? The popular things not the kinky feet thing

Once that is known then the concious modest soul would dress in a way that doesent arouse sexual attention. In my opinion although a face is beautiful it cant arouse sexual stuff from men a beautiful face is like looking at a flower you can appreciate the beauty and not think sexual thoughts, but if a woman is showing her snacks then theres going to always be hungry men who didnt get their lunch; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Toure Muhammad on June 25, 2009 at 3:49pm: Allah says: Quran 24:31
وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى \\جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

(Y. Ali translation) And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers! turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss. (Surely Allah Speaks the Truth)

Keep in mind when this was revealed some of the women were going around in nude with nothing on...as we see in many countries today, including ours.

I recommend you Read the ayat and pray for guidance in doing what you think Allah is asking of the female, regardless of personal preference.. to me their is no woman more beautiful than a covered Muslim women. i.e. the man should lower their gaze... I don't believe man can tell a woman when or how to cover, it is the duty and responsibility of the woman and she will be accountable to Allah on the day of judgement.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Toure Muhammad on June 25, 2009 at 4:06pm: It also may be good as a "experiment" to go out in public with your hair covered and see the results and how you feel and are responded to by other males and females.

Toure said:
Allah says: Quran 24:31
وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى \\جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

(Y. Ali translation) And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers! turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss. (Surely Allah Speaks the Truth)

Keep in mind when this was revealed some of the women were going around in nude with nothing on...as we see in many countries today, including ours.

I recommend you Read the ayat and pray for guidance in doing what you think Allah is asking of the female, regardless of personal preference.. to me their is no woman more beautiful than a covered Muslim women. i.e. the man should lower their gaze... I don't believe man can tell a woman when or how to cover, it is the duty and responsibility of the woman and she will be accountable to Allah on the day of judgement.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by AMANI IDDEEN BILAL on June 25, 2009 at 4:28pm: i agree with everything that you are saying. i'm not the type of woman to dress in a fashion to get men to purpose look at me hungry for a snack. i dont wear tight fitting clothes of any sort. like i said i dress very modestly. and even with that i feel that women everywhere still look at including myself. i just happen no to wear the khimar/hijab throughout the day.

Nash said:
sister if you can achieve modesty then your dress would also be modest, the best dress is the dress of modesty and righteousness and if your sould is dressed with that then your outer earthly body would also conform with the inner dressing. Modest souls dont attract ignorant sex craved maniacs nor does it want to cause another soul to slip up and sin, so the same soul that is likethat on the inside will most definitly not wish to cause another human being to slip up by getting a peak at some goodies as its body is walking down the street on the outside. That same modest soul will be very concious of how its material body looks on the outside and will do everything to prevent its jewels from being flaunted in the eyes of men. Now question to ask is what is considered beauty on a womans body, what is the things that is most attractive to men?? The popular things not the kinky feet thing

Once that is known then the concious modest soul would dress in a way that doesent arouse sexual attention. In my opinion although a face is beautiful it cant arouse sexual stuff from men a beautiful face is like looking at a flower you can appreciate the beauty and not think sexual thoughts, but if a woman is showing her snacks then theres going to always be hungry men who didnt get their lunch; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by AMANI IDDEEN BILAL on June 25, 2009 at 4:35pm: I pray to allah everyday for guidance and so far with eveything thats going on in my life i have been truly blessed and will continue to thank him for his blessings. Brotha I respect your honesty and your opinion. What i'm about to say is the truth Men regardless look at women who dress modestly because some not all want something to look at. Thats the kind of society i believe we live in unfortunately.

ASA!

Toure said:
It also may be good as a "experiment" to go out in public with your hair covered and see the results and how you feel and are responded to by other males and females.

Toure said:
Allah says: Quran 24:31
وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى \\جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

(Y. Ali translation) And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers! turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss. (Surely Allah Speaks the Truth)

Keep in mind when this was revealed some of the women were going around in nude with nothing on...as we see in many countries today, including ours.

I recommend you Read the ayat and pray for guidance in doing what you think Allah is asking of the female, regardless of personal preference.. to me their is no woman more beautiful than a covered Muslim women. i.e. the man should lower their gaze... I don't believe man can tell a woman when or how to cover, it is the duty and responsibility of the woman and she will be accountable to Allah on the day of judgement.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Nash on June 26, 2009 at 9:34am: i agree with everything that you are saying. i'm not the type of woman to dress in a fashion to get men to purpose look at me hungry for a snack. i dont wear tight fitting clothes of any sort. like i said i dress very modestly. and even with that i feel that women everywhere still look at including myself. i just happen no to wear the khimar/hijab throughout the day

Well sis if thats how you feel then no one can change your mind, if your being a good believer and your keeping your heart pure may Allah reward you greatly. If the understanding of wearing a scarf is not fully understood and you truly believe that what your doing is correct then Alhumduallah Allah will bless you, and whenever if ever you feel comfortable or you have come into more understanding to wear a scarf then do so. Either or its the heart that matters most and if that is pure then Allah will guide you scaf or no scaf; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Joharah A.M. on June 28, 2009 at 5:49am: Bismillah
As salaamu alaikum,

I'd really like to weigh in on this discussion. I have a question for you sister Amani. What exactly do you mean by unrealistic? Do you mean that khimar is difficult because you live an active lifestyle? Or do you mean that it doesn't seem to apply to your particular circumstances, and what might they be? Or have I completely missed your meaning?

Remember Allah in all that you do.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by AMANI IDDEEN BILAL on June 29, 2009 at 12:52pm: Salaam!

my lifestyle is semi-active but what i mean is that i don't feel guilty about not wearing the khimar throughout the day because i know i dress modest and i'm comfortable with that. the only time i wear the khimar is when i attend our jumah on fridays and at home. i just on't see myself wearing throughout the day. Like i said i'm very comfortable with that.

Joharah A.M. said:
Bismillah
As salaamu alaikum,

I'd really like to weigh in on this discussion. I have a question for you sister Amani. What exactly do you mean by unrealistic? Do you mean that khimar is difficult because you live an active lifestyle? Or do you mean that it doesn't seem to apply to your particular circumstances, and what might they be? Or have I completely missed your meaning?

Remember Allah in all that you do.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Alana on July 24, 2009 at 1:37pm: I don't know, really, whether its a sin or not. Allah knows best. I mean we all know what the Qur'an says regarding Muslim women protecting themselves from sin. It depend on what people perceive as what constitutes being dressed modestly enough for Muslim women. Today I wore abaya for the first time without khimar. Could I do that in something like Dubai or even stricter Muslim country, if I were a native Muslim woman, probably not. Well, definitely not base on society's rules over there.

You right, males, are going to look at us women no matter how overly modestly dress or under dress (for those that do) regardless. Allah made men to be attracted to women regardless of what she wears. Human nature.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by UMAYMAH on July 24, 2009 at 6:16pm: HAVE YOU EVER ASKED YOURSELF WHY IT DOESN'T BOTHER YOU THAT YOU DO NOT WEAR A KHIMAR? IT SEEMS TO ME THERE IS A ROOT REASON WHY YOU HAVE CHOOSEN NOT TO FOLLOW THAT WHICH HAS BEEN GIVING TO US AS PROTECTION. I REALLY THINK YOU SHOULD SEARCH YOUR HEART AND MIND AND ANSWER THAT QUESTION HONESTLY FOR YOUR SELF.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Bobbi Nour on July 25, 2009 at 3:03am: Allah is the only judge. As long as you are making progress in Islam, and not backsliding you are ok. Hijab is a very personal form of worship. Anyone who doesn't understand that is truly misguided. whether or not you are muslimah is most important thing. Whether or not you practice the 5 pillars is the next most important thing. Everything else comes in steps and stages. Maybe if you lived in a muslim country you'd wear hijab full time. Only Allah knows what is in your heart. Don't worry about what everyone does or says. You have to stand before Allah and answer his questions. We shouldn't do things because everyone else is doing it, and we shouldn't NOT do things because everyone else is not doing it. (Excuse my double negatives...haha)

Continue to make du'a about this. Allah will guide you to what is right for you at this stage in your life.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Tajah Umar on July 25, 2009 at 3:53am: good topic sis!

As a full time hijabi for a little under 12 years now (I'm 21, you do the math) it's not so much of an issue of "is this realistic" or "are people going to look at me like i'm weird?" It's an issue (to me) of, "is this most pleasing to my lord, and will it bring me closer to Allah or further away?"

I saw a video the other day, a lady gaga video where this woman displayed almost every part of her body. i mean, a thing black string was often the only thing hiding her most private areas. To me, it was absolutely shameful. I felt so bad for her because she will forever live with knowing anyone and everyone knows her most intimate body parts.

Covering is a personal decision that women embark on when they feel they are ready, but just be aware of your reason for not covering. I know that it can be a hassle at times, but a muslimah is so beautiful mashaAllah! I feel so proud to be able to have such a vast wardrobe based on my hijabs alone. Try this; Sit down and make a list of your reasons for not doing it, and your reasons that you think you should do it. Be very specific and honest, you will be surprised at how simple it really is.

Here are things I've heard in the past upon making the decision to cover:
It's hot: Hell is hotter
People will stare at me: SO WHAT? When a woman has her breasts hanging out of her shirt and a mini skirt on you think people don't stare? They do, people are always staring.
People will make fun of me or ask weird questions: So use their comments as an opportunity to bring you closer to Allah, give them daw'aa and be an example.
I am being modest already: If you are, then how will a hijab change your modesty? It will only help you grow as a woman, and it will become your protection in life.

Imagine how special the man in your life will be knowing that he is the ONLY man, who has ever be allowed to witness such beauty, MashaAllah that is so special, and you will be rewarded.

Lastly Sis, remember that if it is a struggle for you to cover, Allah does not give us more than we can handle. Your trial may be your hijab, but it is not too much for you to handle.

iA it all works out.; ▶ Reply to This